Recently a friend on social media boldly shared a post listing a number of prerequisites a guy had to possess before being eligible to date her. After first admiring the set of “balls” on this woman, I seriously started wondering how many other women and men had lists of prerequisites for dating. Now if you’re asking me if it’s ever okay to have such a checklist, I’ve decided it’s okay. The way I figure it, we make them for routine things such as going to the grocery store, buying a new car, or going on vacation, surely, we could all appreciate their usefulness for something as important as finding another human being with whom to spend the rest of our lives. But let me say this, if you’re going to make a checklist it had better be a darn good one. It shouldn’t be superficial, and it should be able to help you identify a good man or woman who’s gonna love, cherish and respect you no matter what. If it has no chance in helping you to do that, then what’s the whole point of it all?
This aforementioned checklist included requirements ranging from employment and height to athleticism and having good teeth, and I guess it’s understandable for us all to want a strong, good-looking partner, after all we have our off springs to think about. But it wasn’t so much an issue of what was on the list of prerequisites as much as it was about what was not on the list. There were no requirements of faithfulness, respect, honesty, compatibility or any personal or moral character traits for that matter. Now, in all fairness to the young lady who made the post, maybe for her these moral traits are a given, hence she felt no need to write them down.
But I say write them down, in fact write them all down. When things are in black and white, they have a way of revealing just how feasible or how ridiculous they all are, whether individually or taken together as a whole. And ladies and gentlemen a word of advice, if you’re going to make a list, please be smart, reasonable and flexible. It’s not so much about finding superman or even the perfect mate. It’s about finding someone with whom you can develop mutual love and respect, and someone with whom you can go the distance with.